How I Stopped Hating on My Hair: Wavy Hair Edition

Serena Norr | 22 June 2016

We can learn a lot from our personal hair history.

We all have our own very distinct hair history. Whether you have straight hair, thick hair, or wavy hair (and everything in-between) you have a unique hair pattern, color, and texture that’s distinctively you. But with that list of hair types and textures come our own journey as we figure out just how to make our hair look its best. You know: how to style it, mold it, craft it, color it, all while making it look like you. And that’s no easy feat. For me, this has always been particularly challenging with having wavy hair. I never got it – was it straight or was it curly? Why was it always so frizzy at the top, and why did it take hours to style it!? It just became a nuisance where I found myself styling it to death, or pulling it back because I didn’t know how to deal with it. Those days are (thankfully) long gone. Over the years, I’ve better learned how to style and manage my hair where I’m now at peace (and dare I say) love my wavy hair. Read on to discover how I stopped hating on my hair and how you can, too!

Hair History: Wavy Hair Edition

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When I get the occasional blowout on my wavy hair. Still have frizz and flyaways to contend with. Photo credit: Suzanne Cohen Photography

1. Hair in my teens.

Post cutting my own bangs in first grade, I was all about glossies and beauty products (not much as changed) as I attempted to learn more about the right hair care products for my wavy hair. Or at least I thought I was. To tame the frizz and flyaways that acclimated around my face, I would glob on some leave-in conditioner and slick it back (in a ponytail) and smooth my flyaways with gel. That look felt too heavy when I was around 16 and I chopped it all off and ended up with a bob. This was bad news because I had no idea how to style it where I ended up “rocking” updos and half ponytails until it grew out.

2. Hair in my 20s.

My 20s could best be touted as my blow-dry years. I literally wouldn’t leave the house without a blowout that would leave my hair straight without a wave in sight. Since those were the days before the now infamous blow-dry bars, you can guess how tedious (and exhausting!) it was to maintain this look. Generally, I used to blow-dry my hair in the evening, apply some serum and then wrap it up lightly to hold onto the look overnight. The next day, I would touch-up any frizz spots and go. On the rare days that I didn’t blowout my hair I would wrap it in a bun or pony without even attempting to wear my wavy hair down. I didn’t like how out of control and unkempt it looked, and I really didn’t know of the best products to maintain it.

3. Wavy hair today: Hair product solutions

Now, as a mom of three (!), I crave easy hairstyles that will get me out of the house quickly, looking semi-stylish, and put together— some days this can be a struggle! I still can’t stand frizz, but I now reserve regular blowouts for special occasions, or when I have the time. I also now feel that straight hair has to be my go-to style. Over the years I’ve learned how to use the right shampoos and conditioners to nourish and moisturize my particular hair type, and how to keep my wavy hair straight throughout the week after getting a blowout. One of my favorites is the TRESemmé 7 Day Keratin Shampoo and the TRESemmé 7 Day Keratin Conditioner whose formulas are infused with keratin, which works to cleanse as it smooths out frizz. I have been pleasantly surprised by how I can now wash and condition my hair, apply a serum or a leave-in conditioner to my locks and not have to deal with frizz. On the days that I do get a workout in, I find that I am so crunched for time that I have fallen in love with dry shampoo. This newer product in my current hair journey has made it easier for me to skip a wash (or two) as I spray it on my locks, allowing it to do its magic of refreshing my hair as it soaks up my hair oils. A personal favorite right now is the Dove Refresh+Care Volume & Fullness Dry Shampoo. If you’re still hair curious about dry shampoo, check out our post on understanding dry shampoo once and for all. Super helpful guide for all hair types!

4. Wavy hair today: Styling solutions.

Of course having having peace with your hair is about more than just product. It is also learning how to style it, having the tools and education and confidence to try something new. As a requisite member of the ponytail club, this has always been a challenge for me. As I’ve learned more about how to care for my hair, I’m finding that I am still discovering new ways in how to change up my look. For me this has involved more braids (basic braids count right?), dramatic part changes and even wearing my hair down, waves and all. And that feels like a huge milestone in my hair journey. As I continue to grow, accept and learn, I can’t wait to discover what’s next in my hair story. So, what’s next? Well, I’m definitely more open to change as I better understand my hair and how to structure it. Maybe once I totally feel confident, I’ll be ready to tackle a new color. Red hair anyone? Stay tuned…

What’s your personal hair history?

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